Hello everyone and Happy Valentine’s Day! Normally, I’d be doing some kind of promotion or holiday event in my Facebook group, or even hosting other authors in my group for a V-Day party. This year, I am grateful I did not schedule anything because we are buried in the ice storm of the season and I would not be able to participate or host such a thing. As it sits now, Day 2 of the storm, we are safe and warm. Electricity is back up and running and seemingly stable… but there’s still no internet and my cell connection is spotty. I’ve been writing offline and then using my phone’s hotspot to pop on and schedule, post, or save things (which is how I’m getting this to you now).
All in all, I cannot complain though. Our electricity came back on so we have heat. And many do not. My cousin just a few miles away had to check her family into a hotel because they still have no electricity or water. The other end of my street has no electricity, and crews have been out all day working on restorations. I’m warm, safe, and dry… so there’s that to be happy about.
So… with that in mind, I hope you’re having an awesome day with the people, pets, or books that you love.
While this downtime can be frustrating in a time and society where we are used to being always “connected”, I’m trying to use this time productively. I have so many books scheduled this year, it’s safe to say that I could ALWAYS be writing. And I’m actually okay with that. 😀
It feels really great to be doing what I love. I don’t have to stress about client meetings, Zoom calls, deadlines or events… I mean, at least nothing but the self-imposed deadlines I set for my books. It’s a wonderful feeling to wake up in place that you love with the people you love and know that you can do what you love. Even when there is a major winter storm blanketing the entire city in ice and knocking out your internet…
While I know that I am blessed to be able to say that I love my life, I also know that not everyone has this privilege. And for me, it came with a lot of hard work and sacrifices. And today, on a holiday devoted to love, it’s a good time for thinking about these things and being grateful for what we have and those we have in our lives.
I know that Valentine’s Day can be a trigger of pain and sadness for a lot of people. There are those who have lost people, to Covid, or to other things. There are those going through bad breakups and divorces. There are those who have been alone for so long… they’ve given up hope for meeting their special someone. And if any of that applies to you, I am sorry. I’m sorry if you’re hurting or if you’re struggling with today.
This day has not always come with happy memories for me, either. In the years of my adult life that I was “coupled up”, this holiday has never been one to bring love and happiness. War deployments, death/loss, domestic violence, alcoholism, cheating, and a betrayal worse than cheating (I previously didn’t know that was possible) make up some of my V-Day Highlights Reel. And sometimes the negative memories start to build up so much, you think you’d rather just be alone than endure the pain that comes with being with someone.
If you’re someone who has painful memories of this day, or just feel sad seeing everyone share their pictures, gifts and fun times with loved ones… know that you are not alone. You can choose to make this day whatever you want it to be. Whether that means not celebrating it at all, or taking it as a time to treat yourself. Again, you get to decide.
Maybe your idea of a great time is to lie around reading a favorite book or some new books on your Kindle… whatever you do, take time to love yourself, and enjoy!
Until next time,